The soft sex series ‘Sex / Life’ became a summer hit on Netflix. Base writer BB Easton confesses how her own life inspired the wild series.
‘Sex / Life’ rocked the Netflix charts – the summer 2021 pandemic was ripe for a full-blown soft sex adventure. This time not in particularly diverse circles, but in the dream idyll of the white majority society. Billie dearly wanted a child, a good man who would neither leave nor hurt her, and the quiet of the suburbs to look after her brood and soul. Now she has it all and dreams of her old wild alter ego, including wild sex with ‘bad boy’ Brad. Essentially a drama for many women, Netflix comes in the noble version of the kitsch novel. The suburb scores with Landhaus and Bentley, both men are filthy rich, have well-defined abs and can never get enough of Billie.
A woman between two men – a subject of many productions. In Sex / Life, however, it is full of hot, high-gloss eroticism. In ARD and ZDF, the radio councils would hit the blow. Whether in the kitchen, elevator, bar or swimming pool – it is done everywhere. And from a female point of view, here the gentlemen get on their knees in front of the lady and not too close.
The series is looking for scandal
The series is loosely based on the book ’44 Chapters About 4 Men ‘and author BB Easton was clearly inspired by her own marriage. She spoke to the British Telegraph about fiction in series and books and her life. The series is far removed from the original book. Not a problem for Easton. ‘Netflix said,’ Oh my god, we could take the book and turn it into a TV drama, ‘and then they really went in their own direction.’ Only the basic motives remain the same, especially the most important: Easton’s premarital affairs were indeed wild. ‘My sex life in front of the kids was just as exciting as you see it on the series,’ she says of her sex credentials.
The series reflects her life back then. Motherhood is wonderful, but deadly boring. Her relationship with her husband went from a flourishing sex life to a well-oiled shared apartment. In the book and series, the dichotomy is shown in the image of the rivalry between their sexual desires and their breastfeeding breasts. ‘When I was reading the script for the pilot, I noticed this attitude. How the cut back and forth between Billie’s husband’s mouth on her nipples and the baby’s mouth on her nipples. And I was like, ‘Stacy, the show’s creator, got it. That’s the crux of the book. ‘
Film character Billie and creator Easton begin to record their sexual desires in a diary. In the series, husband Cooper discovers his wife’s wild fantasies. ‘I never saw my husband read my diary. My only suspicion was because one evening I heard him close my laptop and then he started acting weird. And the next day he took me on a date. As a psychologist, I observed his behavior and realized that his change in behavior was directly related to what he had just read. And I thought, ‘This is amazing – I’ll keep doing that.’ ‘
Don’t bring the ex into the marriage bed
But unlike Billie, Easton never tried to reactivate the old lover. She never considered an open marriage, she told the newspaper. ‘No way.’ Easton thinks Netflix has stepped on the gas at every point in the film, and for good reason. ‘How can we make this the best, most shocking, believable, and wildest TV series? And Netflix knew the best way to do that was to get the ex-boyfriend into today’s situation. ‘ The viewer wants to see both in real time and not as flashbacks. For the series, sex with the ex is a brilliant decision. But in real life? Not a good idea.’ In reality, she wouldn’t recommend any woman to spice up marriage by bringing ex-lovers into play. Comparing the current lover to his predecessors would only lead to frustration.
‘For most women, it will be better to say things like,’ I could enjoy this’ or ‘I want to try this out’ rather than ‘My ex always did this to me.’ It doesn’t feel good to be compared to someone else. ‘ Easton wants to protect her readers from an illusion. She saved her life and her marriage not by sex acrobatics, but by publishing a book and having had success with it. ‘We were no longer two stressed people trying to keep our heads above water, we went to readings and book signings every weekend. That forced us to take all those little weekend vacations together and we’re having so much fun now. Our lives weren’t fun before this book came out. ‘
And that also applies to sex life: In any case, it is possible to have good sex again in marriage, according to BB Easton. ‘I think that’s the main point of the book, that love is still there, that you can find your way back to that passion. It can be made to work as long as the desire to make the other person happy is still there. ‘
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